Getting diagnosed with Lyme disease, an autoimmune condition that affects your entire body, is not a reason to find love. On the contrary, many people recommend being in a romantic relationship, considering it will give the patient a driving force to get past their medical obstacles. They will also have someone to turn to when they are in pain or too shy to ask their parents, friends, and other relatives for help.
The problem is, having Lyme disease does not exempt patients from heartbreaks. No matter how ill you may feel, after all, the hard truth is that some people will still not think twice before breaking your heart. Others may even decide to do it after finding out about your condition, assuming that you will not be a burden to them.
But you know, life must go on despite that. You cannot let a heartbreak destroy your self-confidence, especially now that you have an autoimmune disorder.
Here’s how to keep a breakup from aggravating your Lyme disease.
Avoid Crying For Days
According to Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D., “It’s normal for us to need some time to ruminate and go over the break-up in minute detail when we feel like we were the one who was dumped. Break-ups can definitely qualify as traumatic events and telling and re-telling the break-up story is a relatively normal reaction if it was traumatic for you.”
Crying is supposed to be suitable for cleaning your eyes and letting negative emotions out of your system. You can shed big, ugly tears for a day or two, but try not to cry again after that.
Tina Gilbertson, LPC, BC-TMH, says, “Reflect on the incident in private if you feel it’s unresolved. Don’t stress out if you can’t recapture the pain. Tears are like cats: You can’t lead them on a leash.”
If you are unaware of it, prolonged crying can stress you out so much. That is a typical factor that triggers all kinds of illnesses – Lyme included. The more you bawl your eyes out, therefore, the more the symptoms may bother you.
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Change How You Think About The Situation
Aside from losing a special someone, many individuals cry post-breakup because they think that they will be single forever. That is especially true for people with chronic illnesses. They tend to think, “Who will love me now?” “I should have known that no one wants someone with an autoimmune disease.”
If you don’t want your condition to aggravate, you need to stop thinking of the situation that way. You are loveable – it’s your ex who doesn’t deserve your affection. There is nothing wrong with you – it’s the other person’s fault that they can’t love someone as strong as you are.
Don’t Think That You Can’t Find True Love
The breakup that you have just experienced is nothing to cry about for many nights. Some may think that it’s insensitive of me to say that, but I believe that you cannot find real love if your ex has not become your ex. In a way, you should be thankful because you have known how shallow their feelings are for you early. Thus, you still have time to look for someone who will not base your worth on your physical condition.
Experiencing a heartbreak is a part of growing up. Adults even say that it is essential for everyone to go through with it at least once to prevent being gullible. However, I also know that it brings about the kind of stress that is not beneficial for any Lyme disease patient.
If someone breaks up with you now, therefore, think of the ideas mentioned above to keep the situation from aggravating your illness.
“Each relationship teaches us something about ourselves. It teaches us about what we want or do not want in a partner. With the ending of each wrong relationship, we are getting closer to the right one,” reminds Allison Abrams, LCSW-R.